Melinda, you said of your client: "She thought if she stopped nursing or cut back on her breastfeeding that her husband would take a more active role in the babies needs." She was distressed and it sounds like you were, too. I think this happens more in the west that we hear about, as it forms the subtext for many feeding decisions. It has been very clearly described as a concern for women in some developing countries by Penny van Esterik in 'Motherpower and Infant Feeding'. I find it a challenge to remember than women are still in a position in society and in their own heads that they place the wishes, perceived or actual, of men, above other considerations. However, that is both the economic and emotional reality of women's lives. I became a teenager in the '60's, so imbibed some stated ideals from that era. My blackest times of greatest self-disgust come when I realise how deformed my own life has been and still is because of the inequality between the sexes which flourishes in so many ways in our world. And I know men are damaged by this too. Babies socialised into societies where this is happening catch the fall-out. Magda Sachs Breastfeeding Supporter, BfN, UK *********************************************** The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html