Diane wrote: "I have a private theory that "sparklers" - those babies who both give off and require huge amounts of energy - end up smart, precisely because of their problems. ... And I suspect the parents reap the benefits in the years to come, in the form of an unusually bright, creative child." Cool. By definition I have three "sparklers" now ages 8, 5, and 2. They have never been placid. I have always suspected the same about them, and didn't look for ways to get them away from me when they were so needy. I have always counseled mothers to invest the time and value their children for who they are instead of who they expected them to be. Anecdotally, I feel these mothers, once they tune into their children, derive great fulfillment from knowing their kids well. *********************************************** The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html