Pat, I used to often 'will' my MER to happen because it was slow in flowing. I found it helped to visualise the flow of hormones (diagramatically as one sees in bfg books/visual aids with pencilled curve showing flow by arrows!) in a full curve from my brain around my shoulders and into my breasts. I also visualised my milk flowing fast down and out of the ducts and I would also think about what it feels like having a good MER. If that did not work I then 'took' myself off on a wonderful imaginery walk along the waters edge of a deserted sandy tropical beach! This took me out of the situation I was in and Hey Presto! most of the time the MER happened. I found my MER was slow to happen if I was upset with my husband, if I was cross and spoiling for an argument, tired, feeling unwell - all the negative situations in life and it would be v slow to flow. regards Helen Woodman, Storrington, UK