Stephanie, you wrote, "I'm at a loss, I want to support this mom, really do. But I've got other clients, 3 kids, volunteer work, a house, and school to contend with and my job really isn't to "be her friend". I've made all the referrals I can, and I've been really good.....4 visits, 9 phone calls......... all when the technical breastfeeding issue was solved at the first visit! How do I wean this client!" A cry from the heart! You've been great and have obviously given this mom *exactly* what she needs. In fact, much *more* than you think "should" be necessary. However, it seems very clear that she is still not quite ready to "wean" from you. Your really eloquent descriptions of how much time you have given to this client, and your frustration, sound sooooo similar to moms describing their feelings with a toddler who seems to need them more than they perceive is "normal". Perhaps there's a reason that she is still so needy, but you just don't know what it is yet. Maybe she's developing fast in another area??? Remember the LLL maxim, A Need Unfulfilled Continues to be a Need. My advice? Relax, go with it, carry on seeing her as often as she wants (never offer, never refuse!) charge for every consult (you are obviously worth it and she can afford it) and enjoy this "easy" LC/client relationship where you can go on reassuring her that all is well until she really *believes* in herself. My experience of these long-term relationships is that the intervals between calls gradually lengthen and you never know when the last consult will be (no closure) until one day you remember she hasn't called you for a month and realize in retrospect that she has self-weaned. Pamela Morrison IBCLC, Zimbabwe (who often wishes she had more of these and less of the "other" kind!)