In a message dated 3/20/98 5:08:28 AM, carol b wrote: <<does anyone else "ask" or perhaps Announce is a better word - before doing something? >> Definitely inform, make aware, seek approval, prepare, as with any patient care activity I would perform as their nurse. An observed hesitency warrants a different approach. And, as is often appropriate, I assess interest/seek approval: "would you like to practice while I'm here?". It's amazing how eager most new mothers are to learn in spite of many challenging and non- condusive situations in early postpartum. <<of course, getting to hold the Baby is the main thing but i attempt to show restraint.>> This line works well: "Let me hold the baby for you while you get your pillows situated". Deborah Tobin RN BSN IBCLC ACCE SI Springfield