Jay I think we all have to respect where the parents of this baby are right now. I can understand that this is not the time for them to get political and to start making trouble for the hospital and the people on whom their baby's life depends. If they can ensure that the doctor's orders and the ABM feeds are documented (and even this may be too much to ask) then they will have a choice later, when the crisis period is over. Maybe this is what concerns your mentors - that by firing up the parents about their legal rights etc you are putting more stress on them instead of supporting them at this time. Of course all parents have a right to know the facts, but we should not let our own outrage and agendas interfere at such a traumatic time. My guess is that you were gentle with the parents and it is only in your recounting to your 1000 allies that your anger came through - an appropriate outlet. Sadly, these situations keep happening because most parents feel too vulnerable to act, or feel guilty about taking action against the people who they perceive saved their baby's life. Complex dynamics. Sooner or later it will all blow up in public in the face of some hospital - but it may take an unnecessary death from NEC or similar. Meanwhile, maintain your rage. Ros Escott BAppSc IBCLC Tasmania, Australia