Nice observation! My mil (who BF 3 successfully) bent over backwards not to
interfere when I had my 1st and could have used BF advice.  We both later
regretted that she hadn't offered help.  But how to know the difference,
between helping and pressuring and when to say what! Have been through this
with a dil and had to be very careful after she rejected my initial
overature (I sent her a wabf - which I do to everyone in the family and
friends who is expecting-whether they plan to BF or not-my hangup).
Sincerely, Pat in SNJ