Nice observation! My mil (who BF 3 successfully) bent over backwards not to interfere when I had my 1st and could have used BF advice. We both later regretted that she hadn't offered help. But how to know the difference, between helping and pressuring and when to say what! Have been through this with a dil and had to be very careful after she rejected my initial overature (I sent her a wabf - which I do to everyone in the family and friends who is expecting-whether they plan to BF or not-my hangup). Sincerely, Pat in SNJ