Dear all, The tale of the mom who was told it '"was not in her best interest " to BF now that she has twins/had a stroke, or substitute manifests diabetes, or whatever unforeseen challenge arises reminded me of something in New Beginnings not too long ago: a mother who gave birth unexpectedly to a premature baby was in the NICU visiting and the nurse asked her the following question: HAD you planned on breastfeeding? The mother said this was the question she needed to be asked and was able to answer Yes, and the nurse helped her get started. She said if someone had asked "DO you want to BF, it would have not so clearly reminded her that yes she did plan to do this, and there is therefore no reason why she shouldn't, even with the complications. Do you want to BF does not emphasize that the mother could continue on her plan despite almost overwhelming emotions and challenges; it is a question of "now" and the now was so overhwelming mother felt she would have answered that question with a "no". "Had you [Planned "is a wonderful question for nurses to be asking post-partum. It seems to ackowledge that the mother made a decision - her decision- and she still has power to carry it out. I guess it could also serve as a springboard for providing mothers with the excellent reasons to BF a sick or small baby even if they hadn't planned on doing it under "normal" birth circumstances. Just wanted to share that -the awesome power of words "used for good instead of evil". Judy Fram, Brooklyn, NY