Laura W., et al, We were in similar situation, however, I was in my first trimester of my pregnancy with my daughter. My son, Lorin, was not quite 3.5yo and only nursing at night when he came into our bed (yet another variation of the family bed). My nipples were quite sensitive and it was uncomfortable to nurse. What worked for us was to breastfeed till I counted to 20 or said the alphabet, then it went down to a count of 10, and finally how about we'll just cuddle. It is possible that the three year old you are referring to needs the physical contact with mom. Lorin, who is now 5.75yo, still likes to crawl into our bed at night for cuddle. Everyone gets enough sleep, though sometimes I feel like singing "There were four in the bed, and the little one said, roll over, roll over..." Alicia, LLLL in the Bluegrass (Lexington, KY) aka Post Poster <[log in to unmask]>