Jane-- First of all, you are not flaming, you are venting about an understandably frustrating situation. Please be sure to let the doctor know in your report that the mother was unwilling to feed the baby more often, and where she obtained the info that has led her to this decision. Then, here is a tip that I have learned from Katharine West, who has had some success in working with these parents: Remind the parents that the Ezzos do preach "context" and "flexibility" in their book (even though it doesn't look too flexible to us!). The context is this: baby is failure to thrive and needs to eat more, more often. The book does allow for "temporary" veering from the method-- emphasize this, and tell her to call her contact mother or the Ezzos directly if she doesn't believe this from you! Unfortunately, the books have so many warnings about how feeding a baby whenever he cries feeds his ego and causes him to become self-centered, that parents are too fearful to deviate, even when officially "given" permission. I share your frustration. -Lisa Marasco, BA, IBCLC