I also have met mothers who did not want to short-change the firt-born and therefore elected not to breastfeed the second. One mother who was tandem nursing and overwhelmed by the stress in her life elected to wean the babe in arms as well as the toddler so that he wouldn't have to witness the baby getting the breast. My earlier born children loved to watch me breastfeed the latest addition to the family and hear about how when they were babies they were also fed in this wonderful way. The youngest missed out on this reliving and retelling of her baby-hood. Perhaps because of this she was most facinated with photo albums, an inanimate substitute for the sight of a baby feeding, but without the warmth, smells and and sounds. Yes, there may be a bit of jealousy. They need to be loved through this. Does the mother who does not breastfeed the second for fear of offending the first delay giving the older child a bicycle because the younger one is unable to ride? Will they be expected to celebrate birthdays and go through other milestones at the same time? The child whose baby brother/sister is not breastfed may have a sibling who demands even more attention because of illness and increased crying, a mother who is spending time on formula and bottles, and a family that has less money to spend on present wants or needs or future security and savings. Suzanne (who has weaned before pregnancy, during pregnancy, tandem nursed and listened to the 4th child say "no fair, I'm the littlest, and I wish you had another baby", and agrees that life isn't fair.)