I encourage moms to "perfect" the use of the clutch (under-the-arm) hold: leaves her lap open for big brother/sister to sit and read while she's nursing, so older child is getting attention at the same time as baby, not "leftover" time. I also point out that you can bf a baby with one hand (leaving the other hand free to chase after toddler, eat supper, roll dice in a game with other child, etc.), but NO WAY can you bottlefeed with one hand! It's fun to see the "light bulbs" go on when they "get it". Carol