As I am an LLLL, I believe in the advantages of mothering through breastfeeding. However, I live in an area where bottlefeeding is the norm (from what I can tell around and about, no studies done). I am almost always the only mom on the playground nursing a baby OR a toddler. When I talk with a bottlefeeding mom, I have to rein in what I say about the benefits of breastfeeding (and that somehow is always the topic when I lift my shirt to nurse my one year old). Okay, so the other mom is not breastfeeding, we have established that. But it is not *what* she feeds her baby that boggles my mind, but *how*. One can bottlefeed attachment-style, after all, but I simply never see this. What I see is propping bottles, babies in carseat/stroller with mom giving bottle distractedly, precious little holding of baby at all. The happiest day in the life of these moms is the day when the baby can hold his or her own bottle. What is the deal???? Breastfeeding or not, I want to HOLD my babies! As for moms who want *others* to be able to feed their babies, does anyone else actually do it day in and day out? does dad do middle of the night feed? does MIL take baby in the wee hours to give bottle? Or is it *usually* still the mom who feeds the baby?? My guess is that it is still mom, so she rejected breastfeeding as too "constricting" for no real benefit to either her or the baby. Sign me frustrated in south Florida, Lisa Jones