Dear Maureen,
Thanks SO much for those two WONDERFUL long posts. I loved them! I too was
feeling a little uncomfortable with the force of Kathy D.s statements, but
confused as I love everything she writes. I wanted to believe that BF could
be sensual/arousing, for the reasons you state. Why not enjoy it, since you
do it so long. I love the way you clearly separate what a woman feels from
what she does with that feeling: actions are important, feelings not.
Personally, for me BF is mostly a little painful, but knowing that it can be
pleasurable or even arousing for some women has helped me relax and let that
go and even feel the good feelings more often!

Thanks again,
Dalia