HI All, Maureen said : There is no mention to date of female-female sex, to some Netters no doubt abhorrent and to others a valid form of sexual experience.I wouldn't expect any lesbians to be brave/foolish enough to come out on Lactnet, given prevailing attitudes, but I have to say that being incorrigibly curious, I have wondered how that orientation might have shaped their experience of the breasts and breastfeeding. I have a comment on this: Why would one assume (not saying anyone is assuming here!) that being a lesbian would mean that you have a fixation on breasts? Being a lesbian is no different than being heterosexual when it comes to BF or breasts. Some lesbians refuse to BF for the same reasons Heteros do (work, distaste, abuse, ignorance, etc.). Some BF because of the same reasons heteros do (desire to give the best to baby, information, it feels right, etc...). Lesbians are different in their sexual orientation, only. I asked my husband what he thought of this question, and his comment was that a lesbian is more likely to be very liberal. Well, does that mean that all hetero women who BF are liberal?? No. I know some ULTRA-conservative BF women. Then he said that lesbians must be more into the "alternative" lifestyle simply because they are lesbian (you know health food, lots of exercise etc). Wrong again! I know plenty of hetero women who are into an "alternative" lifestyle, and I know Lesbian women who are so stuck in the 90's lifestyle of materialism it isn't funny. (Let me say very quickly that my hubby and I could care less if someone is homosexual or not. We are very upset, in fact at the treatment the gay population recieves, and have several friends who are gay/lesbian, and they are some of the nicest folks we know, and NOT because they are gay, but because they are nice!) Then he raised a concern about a lesbian BF longterm, especially a little girl, and what would happen if the little girl turned out to be lesbian. "WHAT???!!!" I said. I asked him to equate that to me BF a little girl (get a hint there baby!) long term and her turning out to be a lesbian. WHat is the difference? There is NO difference. Long term BF is long term BF, regardless of the sexual orientation of the mother or the sex of the baby. A real fear I have about trying to find links between lesbians, BF, long term BF, and children growing up homosexual is that some idiot out there will start accusing lesbians of sexual abuse by BF or for BF only for sexual gratification. Next some idiot will start saying that s/he has found a link between BF lesbians and the children turning out homosexual themselves, then that will steamroll into if you BF your girls they will turn out lesbian or if oyu long term BF your son he will end up Gay, etc, etc. I think I got a bit off point here, which is typical of me! My main point is, that while it would be interesting to do a formal study, or informal, of how being a lesbian affects the perceptions of breasts and BF, I don't think we would find anything that we haven't found in the hetero world. Let's not forget the many Bi-sexual women out there who also BF. We can ask the same questions of them, but I can guarantee that just because you have an interest in the same sex, doesn't mean that you will feel any differently about BF than a hetero woman. Why can I guarantee this one? I'll let you think about it! ;) Jay Simpson Who likes to get people thinking now and again!