Joya writes: << As you can imagine, I am feeling a bit guilty about my inability to have more effectivily helped this mother succeed with bf, but at the same time, I also understand there is so much one can do short of nurse the baby myself! >> Joya, this situation is NOT your fault. It's her baby. You've led her to water - it's up to her to drink of the information and support you've provided. This is the most difficult part of our work, IMHO. Long ago, a wise LLL leader counseled me that "you win some, you lose some" and how to work through my own grieving that things don't always have the endings that I would have planned. Now is the time for YOU to find support for yourself - other peer counselors, LLL Leaders, LCs, etc. Keep centered, talk yourself out, and hang in there. We don't want to lose you! LInda Smith, been there and done that. Dayton OH