Nancy, Thanks for your input ! I had thought only of the benefits for the baby, and the already tiredness of the friend who would be donating her milk, but not of the relationship between the adoptive mother and her friend. Very good point ... I see them tomorrow, and will bring this up. Tahnks again ! Louise Denhez, M.D., M.P.H Chargee d'enseignement clinique Departement de medecine sociale et preventive