Linda: Has this only been a problem since baby was 4 mos old or has he been FTT the entire 6 mos? Did baby have a gag problem during the first 4 mos or did it just develop? If so, why? Has dad become more personally involved with this baby's caretaking during the past two mos than during the 1st four mos? Do you know anything of the development history of the toddler sibling (the recepient of the hot baths)? I do hope this mom followed your advice to find help from the shelter. This situation will NOT get better until she does. Maybe the D.O. you referred her to will also encourage her to get help. Dad sounds like another one who is into power & control. Pardon me if I'm overreacting, but my sister the police detective working family abuse has told me tales... Good luck on this one. Phyllis Adamson, BA, IBCLC Glendale, AZ [log in to unmask]