Judy: your post re the woman who says that her breasts "belong" to her husband....from this mornings local paper... "a survey of 11-14 yr olds. showed 51% of the boys and 41% of the girls said that forced sex was acceptable if the boy 'spent a lot of money' on the girl. the same survey showed 87% of the boys and 79% of the girls sais sexual assault wa acceptable if the man and woman were married, plus 65% of the boys and 47% of the girls said it was acceptable if a boy and girl had been dating for more than six months. a study of male college students recealed 35% anonymously admitted that unfer certian circumstances tye could commit rape if they could get away with it. other numbers: on in 12 admitted to commining acts that met legal definition of rape, and 84% of the men who committed rape did not label it as rape. a second survey of college males found 43% who acknowledged using coercive behaior to have sex, including ignoring a woman's protest and using physical force. fifteen percent cenceeded they had committed acquentaince rape. there was a recent collection of letters in dear abby re: cuddling and hugging and mens take....many of whom felt that they needed a "return" for their investment.... on reflection of this it is the "old boys attitude" through and through and no one gets up and SCREAMS this is not acceptable. there was the incident in Japan... the c.o.' s comment was for what they spent renting the car they could have bought the sex..... - this is a core piece that need adressing before we can move forward.... Patricia