Kathy, With regard to feed frequency and reasons why babies ask to feed that you mentioned, I agree wholeheartedly. In fact, when talking to mothers, I often mention these facts from other cultures so they don't think their frequently-feeding baby is "abnormal". (Also, with the issue of babies wanting to be carried all the time, I talk about other cultures, an explain how "artificial" many of our parenting practices are.) To clarify what I was trying to say as succinctly as possible in my post (I have a tendency to be rather verbose usually ;-)), I was specifically referring to a baby suffering from oversupply colic. Even then, I did not mean that this baby could not feed within that 2 hour period, rather that he should not get too frantic if only allowed on the less-preferred side for a few feeds in a row in that period. I was trying to emphasise that this is not a long time by pointing out that many babies *in Western cultures* often happily go periods of 2 hours without feeding. The other point I should have mentioned was that I *always* tell the mother that these strategies are only guidelines, not rules, and if she understands the basic principles of trying to slow down the amount of milk going through baby, and of how milk production in her breasts works, it is up to her to do what she thinks will work best in her situation. Also, she should only use them for a few days, after which they have either worked and she has a happier baby, or not worked and then to look at other types of strategies. With regard to sex and breasts - there is a physiological link, as oxytocin is both the hormone which causes milk let-down and causes orgasm. It is quite physiological to experience sexual feelings when breastfeeding due to this hormone's effect. As I am sure you know, oxytocin also causes labour. This hormone's effect is sometimes the basis of objections to breastfeeding or sexual intercourse through pregnancy - the oxytocin *theoretically* causing premature labour. I have heard oxytocin called "the hormone of love". Joy Anderson IBCLC Perth, Western Australia [log in to unmask]