Judy, This Mom is against herbs and such. :( (They sure worked for me!) She is a very negative person at time, but goes through stages of wanting to get through this and then wanting to get rid of the baby. (not really get rid of the Baby) I talked to her last night, she told me she is going in for counseling. I think it's a really good idea. There seems to be some sort of sexual abuse that occurred in her early years, and she's not quite sure how to deal with all that is going on. When she called me last night, she was in tears because she had just taken all of her frustrations out on her hubby, who by the way has been very supportive, and she didn't know what to do. Having gone through this myself just a short 10 months ago, I told her to get help, and to go to her hubby and apologize profusely! Within a short time I had her laughing at my stories of what I felt when Ben and I had a lot of probs. It seemed to help her to know that her feeling were valid, and that she wasn't the only one in the world who had had them. However, I don't want to become her psychiatrist. I want to give her support and empower her to help herself, but I don't want to BECOME her support, you know? I'm very new to this field and boy am I learning the hard stuff first! I had hoped to ease into this field slowly so as not to get in over my head. Oh well, nice thought anyway! I'll let you know if this Mom survives her ordeal. If she does or doesn't, she's the one who has to choose and accept her choice! Take Care! Jay LC in training!! Slow it down out there!!