Harry, Reality checks are very important especially for those of us living in breastfeeding blissdom. So keep talking. Last year at a Bf conference I was privileged to learn how to do a proper breast exam and I teach self-exams to clients as a routine. I have also been trying to educate the mothers who call me regarding lumps about sonogram and /or biopsy versus mammograms as a option to weaning. Sometimes they pick up the ball and run with it but more often then not they are very frightened (I don't blame them, I had a terrifying lump experience when I was 20) and do not wish to suggest anything different to they're physicians. Sorry about your friend, she is in my thoughts. Rita (Milkewae)