Lynn said: Being tethered to an infant is a *good* thing, and I despise it when cultures that tell us that mothering at the breast is not important or worth supporting. YES - and in fact, mothers are being made to feel they are doing something WRONG if they WANT to be with their babies. A mom I just saw today finally told her husband: "PLEASE leave him HERE near me! I know you want to help, but when he is out of sight, I'm not able to rest!" What a shame mothers are not allowed their own instincts! I wonder if some of the increase in depression that seems to be happening is related to maternal loneliness when babies are removed "so the mom can rest" by well-meaning "friends"... I don't say that mothers SHOULD feel this way - but rather that many DO feel this way and fear criticism, so they "stuff it"... I just praised her for speaking up and supported her in acting on her feelings...and that probably her baby was feeling the same way! Jeanette Panchula, BSW, RN, PHN, IBCLC - and today LLLLeader Vacaville, CA *********************************************** Archives: http://community.lsoft.com/archives/LACTNET.html To reach list owners: [log in to unmask] Mail all list management commands to: [log in to unmask] COMMANDS: 1. To temporarily stop your subscription write in the body of an email: set lactnet nomail 2. To start it again: set lactnet mail 3. To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet 4. To get a comprehensive list of rules and directions: get lactnet welcome