Hi Susan, Interesting you say this; I had a fascinating experience myself one month ago. When we were on the verge of getting our train to the airport to catch our plane to England for the LCGB conference, we read the ad in the newspaper that a friend of ours had lost his wife the day before. (Announcements are usually in the newspaper the day after, so that people who don't get an invitation for the funeral, know when it will be and can attend.) She died of an aneurysma, only 62 years old. Monday 6th of April, after she died the 1st, we attended the funeral. It was packed and we had to stand in the hallway with many others and watch the screens instead of our friend. Three times, during his speech, he mentioned breastfeeding and ways of parenting. He said it was easy to let them go, because the bond was strong and he thought that was due to his wife breastfeeding their children. Before that, he had already said how beautiful it had been, to see them at breast and later on he said: "And when the well baby clinic would say that she should leave them to cry, they could get lost, in her opinion, because she would pick them up and comfort them." We were at a conference in Riga last year, my husband and I, while his wife was faithfully babysitting their grandchild and did not join us. I told this friend about my work with regard to excessive crying and he has known for a long time about my breastfeeding work. Can't help but wonder whether it made him think about their past with their kids. Now that their mother died, he brought it up and that, once again, goes to show how talking about breastfeeding as being the norm and important, really will seep through and emerge at unexpected moments. I hugged him later on and said, crying: "I didn't know I had such a good ambassador in you!" He held me and said: "Ah, well... I just thought it was appropriate to say it, as it is so important." They are sweet people. Those experiences... they linger and make you strong and motivated to do some unexpected protection and promotion yourself in some other situation. You never know, do you... Warmly, Marianne Vanderveen IBCLC, Netherlands ----- Original Message ----- From: "Susan Small" <[log in to unmask]> To: <[log in to unmask]> Sent: Sunday, May 03, 2009 10:08 PM Subject: [LACTNET] Unexpected breastfeeding support > I was shocked. Here was someone who was preaching to several thousand > people over 9 different services who referred to breastfeeding as normal, > expected, and good. He didn't mention alternatives or choices. He used > breastfeeding as an analogy for where everyone starts life. > Susan Small > RN BSN > new to Calgary, Canada > *********************************************** > > Archives: http://community.lsoft.com/archives/LACTNET.html > To reach list owners: [log in to unmask] > Mail all list management commands to: [log in to unmask] > COMMANDS: > 1. To temporarily stop your subscription write in the body of an email: > set lactnet nomail > 2. To start it again: set lactnet mail > 3. To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet > 4. To get a comprehensive list of rules and directions: get lactnet > welcome > > __________ Informatie van ESET NOD32 Antivirus, versie van database > viruskenmerken 4049 (20090501) __________ > > Het bericht is gecontroleerd door ESET NOD32 Antivirus. > > http://www.eset.com > > > *********************************************** Archives: http://community.lsoft.com/archives/LACTNET.html To reach list owners: [log in to unmask] Mail all list management commands to: [log in to unmask] COMMANDS: 1. To temporarily stop your subscription write in the body of an email: set lactnet nomail 2. To start it again: set lactnet mail 3. To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet 4. To get a comprehensive list of rules and directions: get lactnet welcome