Jeanette Panchula <[log in to unmask]> wrote: > [...] the more likely it is to have > people like the phone call I got yesterday: > > "My girlfriend finds pumping and bottle feeding breast milk easier ... all > she has to do is pump and we then can see what the baby gets, I can feed the > baby and she can sleep, and we can go about our life and work... Is that > wrong?" > > (This call from a friend of my son, college educated and VERY involved in > his new baby's care.) > > Of course our counseling skills need to come out: Could the mom have been > an abused woman and doesn't want the baby at the breast? Could the mom want > to make sure she gets the father of the baby "hooked" on the baby, as they > aren't married? ??? This comment came as rather a shock to me. Why would you think that not having had a formal wedding ceremony means that their relationship is more likely to be tenuous and manipulative? I think it's important to not bring this sort of prejudice into a consultation. Even if it is not explicitly stated, women will detect it. Lara Hopkins *********************************************** Archives: http://community.lsoft.com/archives/LACTNET.html To reach list owners: [log in to unmask] Mail all list management commands to: [log in to unmask] COMMANDS: 1. To temporarily stop your subscription write in the body of an email: set lactnet nomail 2. To start it again: set lactnet mail 3. To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet 4. To get a comprehensive list of rules and directions: get lactnet welcome