in an unbreastfeeding aware area it's quite understandable to be concerned about 'being reported'. I think once a child gets to such an age they are able to wait if the situation might be difficult. And if not able to go might not realise what you're doing. I remember on a hospital visit with a nearly 3 year old, by the time we went in she was ready to nurse and zonk out. Which she did . When I mentioned later in the consultation to the doc that I was breastfeeding, he said 'you've got a baby at home?' He'd not noticed what my dozing tot on my lap was doing. My daughter went on until she was 6, and one advantage at that age was the after school time was so much nicer than with my son, who was tired and cranky, and hungry. If I get a chance at an appropriate time these days I do mention how old they were when they weaned, people who know my children can't say that they are not independent, or whatever else they are worried about. And as we've been married for 30 years they can't go on about it affecting the marital relationship. The only criticism my husband has ever made was 'you breastfed her too long, she's far too independent for her age!' Forget what age, but sometime in the early/mid teens A more concrete example of the benefits of toddler nursing; a mother I know locally had a daughter with a hole in the heart which was repaired at about 18 mths. The doc told her that had she not been breastfeeding she'd have not thrived as she did, and would have been in a much weaker state in general. Helen LLLL in England *********************************************** Archives: http://community.lsoft.com/archives/LACTNET.html Mail all commands to [log in to unmask] To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or [log in to unmask]) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet or ([log in to unmask]) To reach list owners: [log in to unmask]