This is something I wonder about all the time! Why do the mothers not follow on with the tools i give them? An example is Reverse Pressure Softening- I teach it to virtually all my new mums who have engorged , full areolas. It works. They say ...wow , thats amazing, a pain free latch! I give them the handout. Then they dont do it because its too much hassle?? I just dont get this . I try very hard not to be too hands on and then find myself demonstrating on myself ! But I do guide the mothers hand ( mainly away from the back of the babys head) and always have them do a few latches on their own before i go. I think Pams D's idea about leaving them alone to do it so its not an " exam " is great and I will try that. Yes there are days , weeks ,I wonder if anyone has it easy starting off but then I get the most wonderful call where I know ive made a difference and its all ok again! BTW are there any other newly qualified IBCLc's out there interested in formimg an email support for each other as its a bit lonely at times and id love to rant and also to give support to others starting out. x Nicola O'B www.breastfeedingsupport.ie Dublin ,Ireland ( lashing rain ) *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(R) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html