In a message dated 11/29/2004 12:17:59 PM Eastern Standard Time, [log in to unmask] writes: I hope that those of us who teach are able to present honest and complete information in a way that lessens feelings of failure when the outcome isn't as planned, whether we are teaching about birth, breastfeeding, or other important life experiences. I hope that we are able to grieve with mothers who are saddened by their experiences, just as we celebrate with those who are happy. Dear Friends: Rowe-Murray and Fisher from Australia published a lovely study showing a connection between depressed feelings at 7-8 months postpartum and not holding the baby after birth. This paper also showed that mothers who birthed in Baby-Friendly Hospitals, where they held their babies to initiate breastfeeding (one of the 10 Steps to Successful Breastfeeding) after any type of birth, had less depressed feelings at 7-8 months out. So there is still a chance for breastfeeding to go well; sometimes breastfeeding is tremendously healing for a mother whose has suffered a traumatic birth. We want to celebrate birth and breastfeeding, not grieve its loss. If birth and breastfeeding is lost, of course we will grieve. Let's avoid this terrible loss at all costs! warmly, warmly, Nikki Lee RN, MS, Mother of 2, IBCLC, CCE Maternal-Child Adjunct Faculty Union Institute and University Film Reviews Editor, Journal of Human Lactation Support the WHO Code and the Mother-Friendly Childbirth Initiative *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(R) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html