In einer eMail vom 19-5-04 16:30:53 West-Europa (zomertijd) schreibt [log in to unmask]: > But we need to be aware that for some people, it is hurtful to know > breastfeeding is something they could have done....if only. This is > perfectly compatible with sharing good, truthful information. > Heather, I fully agree that we should not *purposely* use guilt in order to get changes. But our fear for another persons feelings of guilt for *consiously* choosing the wrong options should not keep us from saying the truth about infant feeding. Moms that thought they made the right choice and then, perhaps because of our information, finds out, they could or should have choosen differently don't need to feel guilty. They can be disappointed or angry or feel sorry. Yes, they can feel hurt for having done different then they would have had they known everything. AmI making sense? Feeling not well, but still warmly greeting, Gonneke van Vledhuizen, IBCLC, MOM, LLLL *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(R) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html