It seems like to me that the mom needed help to encourage her child to go with other people while she worked or took a break. She obviously had a hard time getting someone to watch her child for her because the baby was attached to her and none of the sitters wanted to practice that type of mothering style on her child or they could not convince the child that everything was going to be fine. I wonder if too much was done too soon by the mother to detach this child from her as she appears to be regretting it. She senses the unnaturalness of this and is very confused as to what's the best thing to do without compromising her most important goal, to be able to send her child to a baby sitter while she works or goes someplace. She could always try breastfeeding again. He already knows how to take a bottle from someone else, so the original goal might not become compromised when she nurses again. Maybe letting someone else send him to the sitter would help if he starts to have separation anxiety again and if mom starts to feel guilty. What I don't like is the fact that the sitter is getting paid to watch over her child and should know that separation anxiety comes with the territory. I also find that too many sitters believe that holding a child spoils them. I can understand if they're busy, but that's part of the job. Mental note - never hire a sitter that has too many young children and/or don't believe in holding a crying child. I really hope that she nurses again, that is if the child still wants to. Ann de Jesus Negron *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(R) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html