Amy you did really well. But I gotta tell you if I hear the "you'll make them feel guilty" thing one more time I'm gonna scream and have a temper tantrum. You can't MAKE anyone FEEL anything. If someone feel's guilt it's because they know they made a decision that was not consistent with what their conscience told them to do. An article in either American Baby or Baby Talk (granted not the most scientific journals, LOL) last year reported that women who made a decision to formula feed even after knowing about the benefits of bfing did NOT feel guilty. They were okay with their decision. Why don't we remember how ANGRY we would feel if someone witheld information about a disease or condition because they were afraid they may make us feel guilty. Also a distinction between remorse and guilt needs to be made as well. I'm so tired of this line.... Ilene Fabisch, IBCLC, LLLL, WIC BF Co Listmom wicbfnet and MLCANET Brockton, MA *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(R) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html