Wow, Gail Hertz, what a wonderful analogy to use with parents about letting their babies cry instead of attending to their needs. I can't wait to get the chance to try that out on someone! I always say "It is easier to hold a happy baby than to listen to a miserable one cry" So many parents here seem to think baby needs to learn independence immediately. I have heard new dads and grandparents already in the birthing suite telling new moms who are happily getting acquainted with their new little ones "Oh, you're going to have that baby so spoiled." Jennifer Tieman, MD (who always answers her pages, and whose baby is never left to cry alone!) Family Physician Mom to 4, including nursling Caroline Rose born 5/31/03 *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html