Libby in El Paso wrote in about a mother involved in talking on the phone, and ignoring her baby's obvious hunger cues... I find these situations frustrating and sad. My nursling is almost four years old, and my gut reaction to a distressed baby and a tuned-out mom: I want to offer MY breast! Of course I can't but that's my first instinctive response. I get a reaction approaching disgust when a parent ignores their child in favor of trivial stuff. IMHO, it is important to convey the gist of this, and similar scenarios to the medical/nursing staff caring for this mom, that assistance was offered, mother was informed baby was hungry and needed to feed, mother declined offer of help by the LC, and made no attempt to feed infant when the LC was present. ***It is also vitally important to document, honestly and objectively, in the mother's record, or the baby's (if BFing notes are documented there), about the attempted consultation.*** It is perfectly appropriate to describe the mother's behavior and quote her exact words, if need be. Some diplomacy is needed, but an honest record of what transpired will protect the LC from later complaints and/or repercussions over the LC's actions. IMHO, it may not be the bonding that is at issue. It sounds like this mom's desire and motivation to breastfeed is in question. She seems to be in need of some teaching regarding infant psychological development: regardless of the method of feeding, it is harmful to ignore an infant's basic needs for food and comforting. Shades of "Babywise"--YUCK. I totally understand your frustration! Had a similar scenario yesterday over the phone...a mom phoned in for BFing help. When her call was returned, FOB informed me she was "on her cell phone" and couldn't talk. All information and discussion was via the father, I could hear a baby fussing in the background, and a woman's voice chatting and laughing. I am hoping Mom was on her cell phone to LLL, or another BFing specialist, but I have my doubts. Carole who is obviously feeling a bit cynical today! __________________________________________________ Do you Yahoo!? Yahoo! Mail Plus - Powerful. Affordable. Sign up now. http://mailplus.yahoo.com *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html