my take on the women and men that have very strong negetive responses re:the bf question. (excluding sexual abuse situations) i always ask "what are your thoughts/feelings about bf?" seeking the specific issue/driving force ie..pain,time,formula is equal, "i heard this or that.." etc. normal response is some variation of "YUCK!!!" i use counseling skills to try to put words to the feelings, open ended Q's, probing, etc. most of the time we can get to at least one issue. i love to put it in a cultural context. point out the biological norm, i know i can't change their thoughts - but i can change the way they think about those thoughts (on a good day) lindsay myers, WIC BF support *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html