Julie I bet this mother knows all too well that bf is very very beneficial. That is why she 'feels like a bad mother' for not doing so. Why not suggest feeding expressed milk? In my experience, many mothers who are 'grossed out' by the notion of direct bf will go for pumping. Let her know that many mothers choose this. While this may not be the very best thing for the baby, it will enable the baby to recieve own mother's milk and it holds out the possibility that the mother might at some point put baby to breast, in other words, it protects the milk supply. Of course, a top quality pump would be essential. Laurie Wheeler, IBCLC, MN, RN New Orleans Louisiana, s.e. USA _________________________________________________________________ Add photos to your messages with MSN 8. Get 2 months FREE*. http://join.msn.com/?page=features/featuredemail *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html