Reading the account of the twin who is refusing to feed was like reading the chart of two different babies that I have been working with. One is a triplet who had received some EBM in the beginning (mom never got a good supply and would distribute what she got among the three) and the other is a singleton whose mom nursed and bottled in the beginning, but gave up on the nursing because wouldn't trust the amounts no matter how many feeding assessments we did in the office. Now both are bottle fed. Areas of similarity. Initial feedings and growth were good for about 2 months. Moms concerned a great deal about amounts and timing of feedings (the triplet mom does have to try to schedule feeds for three). Babies are arching back, refusing to swallow, suspected of reflux,. (Both have been tested and both negative). Both get the majority of their calories at night when babies don't fight. Both have been worked up by developmental specialists. The triplet was found to have a disorganized suck and swallow. The singleton no problem. Both now on higher calorie formula. My thought is how much of this could have been avoided if mom's had been willing to feed on the baby's cues rather than schedule. The singleton was doing great until mom stopped nursing. I have suggested relactating, but she is not interested. The triplets mom tried to pump and nurse, and her supply was never enough for one baby (all sorts of fertility problems) but again if only baby Would have been fed when she indicated hunger, I believe much of this could have been avoided. Now, at less than 6 months, we have two girls with issues with food. Just as we try to get moms to trust in their body's ability to nourish, we have to get moms to trust in their baby's ability to know when to be nourished. Gayle Prehn, RN *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html