After all this talk about modest nursing, I had a question today, I have *never* heard before in my 10 years of working with mothers. A mother expecting her 4th called and wanted to know how to get breastfeeding off to a good start; she had not nursed her others. When I recommended she nurse right after the birth, she was horrified because her parents and inlaws and children would be there for the birth and she didn't want them to see her nursing. It just floored me that she was delighted to have them there for the actual birth, but said she was a very private person and didn't want them to see her feed the baby. I think I handled it alright. I explained the importance for her and the babe of nursing right away and recommended she attend LLL meetings to become more comfortable with breastfeeding. What really convinced her is that if she keeps the baby skin to skin feeding her instead of passing her around the family, the baby may not have to spend hours in the warmer. She thought all babies had to spend hours in the warmer. Also, it turns out she was very embarrassed by a nurse who tried to help her latch on her second child and handled her breasts a lot and the baby very roughly and felt embarrassed to have someone handle her breasts in front of her family. Melanie *********************************************** The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html