Karen said: I think we do better to acknowledge the intelligent perceptions underlying a mom's anxiety about breastfeeding, and her valiant attempts to find a solution to her difficulties. I would like to add to this - those of us "on the front line" teaching mothers and their caretakers have two responsibilities (on this particular subject) - One, is to make sure that we "hear" the mother and her concerns and help her find solutions that SHE can live with as her problem must be addressed right now - not in the future. If she feels she is not "heard" or that we would not find her solution "acceptable", then she will cut us out of her life and out of the list of people she calls when facing other challenges and concerns. Two, we need to work hard to CHANGE the reasons for her concerns and challenges - whether embarrassment, unsupportive bosses or unacceptably short maternity leaves. If we ONLY work on changing the policies and politics, we will lose a lot of mothers and babies who will not be able to breastfeed. It reminds me of the decisions we make with schools - we sometimes have to remove a child from a school that is not working - rather than work to change the school - because our child will only have THIS year to be in 2nd or 5th or 10th grade. However, some DO stay and work to improve things from within or for the long haul. Jeanette Panchula, BSW, RN, PHN, IBCLC Vacaville, CA *********************************************** The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html