Gitte wrote:
Guilt may...."turn into anger and outrage
against the givers of such advice and I think that is also a good thing.  If
more people got angry about the bad advice they were given and spoke out
about
it, HCP might make a better effort to be more careful.  That anger might
also
serve to make the mother desire to do some more research for herself.
Withholding information because it might make a person feel guilty simply
cannot
be right.   It's a paternalistic approach that I find undervalues women's
abilities to own their own feelings and use them in a mature way."

This is an issue I feel strongly about.  Sharing information with a mother
almost inevitably turns hers feelings of guilt - or perhaps more accurately,
her feelings of inadequacy,  disappointment and regret - into those of anger
at the health system that has let her down.

Jean Ridler   RN  RM  IBCLC   Cape Town

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