Gitte wrote: Guilt may...."turn into anger and outrage against the givers of such advice and I think that is also a good thing. If more people got angry about the bad advice they were given and spoke out about it, HCP might make a better effort to be more careful. That anger might also serve to make the mother desire to do some more research for herself. Withholding information because it might make a person feel guilty simply cannot be right. It's a paternalistic approach that I find undervalues women's abilities to own their own feelings and use them in a mature way." This is an issue I feel strongly about. Sharing information with a mother almost inevitably turns hers feelings of guilt - or perhaps more accurately, her feelings of inadequacy, disappointment and regret - into those of anger at the health system that has let her down. Jean Ridler RN RM IBCLC Cape Town *********************************************** The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html