>Perhaps she is struggling with the conflict she is feeling between mothering/ >breastfeeding and her time-intensive career. I am guessing you don't feel comfortable telling her that sometimes we can't have our cake and eat it too. :O) I am sorry, I see this so much, moms that don't think twice about getting pregnant when they have such time intensive careers, and instead of putting the career on hold to be with a child that will be grown before they know it, they choose the career. Now I am not naive enough to think that all people can get by on one income.... oh wait, that's a lie, priorities play a huge part. If you aren't willing to make sacrifices to become a parent, then just don't become one. Ok.... please don't start flaming me for this, I know it's on many people's minds but they aren't willing to stir the pot and say something. I have a sister in law who is lamenting about their infertility problems, whines to me constantly and I ask "Trish, are you willing to stop smoking and drinking when you get pregnant? are you aware that kids in smoking households have higher SIDS rates? are you going to stick your child in daycare? or take the time to be at home?" Let's just say that my mother calls me the resident sh*t disturber. I am always making people think about things that they didn't want to think about, or making them *feel* guilty (just wondering how I can make people *feel* anything) about choices that they have made and now want to justify. Melisa ~*~*~*~*~ Did you hear? Breast is Best! Certified Lactation Counselor Student Midwife Alternative Medicine Counselor in Training Childbirth Educator www.nurturingmama.com Mom to Harry who changed my life, Jacob who changed my spirit, and Elleanor who changed my soul. *********************************************** The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html