It's not men in general, it is this man in particular and I can see the red flags dangling all over this situation. I agree with Jennifer that social services need a tip about what is going on in this relationship. Sincerely, Pat in SNJ *********************************************** The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html