At 7:26 AM -0400 7/18/05, Karen Koss wrote:
>Sam,
>Your situation with the mother at your meeting whose baby's appearance
>worried every other person at the meeting reminded me of a similar situation
>...When she came to the door the baby looked even worse. I told her that I was
>very worried for her and the baby and that I was willing to go with her
>immediately to her doctor's in case she was feeling afraid of what the
>doctor would say or do.
...

Wow.  What a story and reminder!  Thank you.

I have always been fascinated with research that shows how anorexics 
literally do not *see* themselves accurately, tracing an outline of 
themselves on a mirror that adds inches to their profile.   Mothers 
of FTT babies may well not, literally, *see* their child accurately, 
and/or as others do.  In addition to psychological imaging issues, 
the child's deterioration may have been gradual so that like the 
proverbial frog in the hot-pot, the mom may also just may not have 
noticed the gradual deterioration.  I think recognizing that the 
mother may have been scared to bring in the child for evaluation was 
insightful and empathic.  What a good call!!

-- 
	-Sara in West L.A., USA.

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