I have appreciated the posts about the wrong baby and what motivates  mothers 
in some of the decisions they make.  I have thought about this and  sort of 
termed it the "princess syndrome" in some cases.  I have noticed  that many 
young women simply have no sense that anything "icky, painful,  difficult, ugly, 
or dirty" should happen in their lives.  They are so out  of tune with nature- 
(probably never cut up a chicken or dug a potato.   case in point, my 24 yo 
daughter asked if potatoes grew under ground and how  they were planted.  I 
told her about the whole "eye of the potato" thing  and that you dig them when 
the tops get big or wilty-- she said "they have  tops?")  and with there own 
bodies or anything that might be in the  slightest bit "unpleasant" that birth 
really throws them, whether it is  difficult or easy.  Then breastfeeding is 
yucky-- who would want to put up  with stuff coming out of your breasts and a 
baby sucking on them for heaven's  sake.  They are the young women who ask for 
epidurals the minute they walk  into the L&D and are dilated to 2.  They are the 
young women that are  distressed enough to sue the hospital for mixing up 
their baby for 10 minutes,  and are suffering emotionally for it.  I don't blame 
or judge them-- they  are a product of our lifestyles and cultural 
expectations.  You worry about  them sometimes, and then you run into the incredible 
resiliency demonstrated by  the 19 yo that Dr. T describes.  Nothing ever amazes 
me more than the  unpredictability of human behavior.
 
Merilee Reeder  RN, CLE
 
 

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