Katherine, What a great sadness. I hope your sharing it with us helps you
feel supported by us all.

"My words carry the energy of my heart."  I like to remember that when I
want to speak and I don't know how to give word to the breadth of my
feeling, and when I fear that I will be misunderstood.

I believe that this dear man needs you as Friend Katherine to speak to him
from your soul space to his soul space--to hear of his great loss. From that
inner space we understand each other. If you go to him as Friend, that is
how he will see you.

He will have plenty of guilt--all over the place, but you know that you
aren't responsible for it and he will need to tell YOU, especially, of his
guilt of not providing his baby with the best, if that is an issue with him.
He will need you, Friend Katherine, to say, "There, there."  You will hear
him, as few others can. You won't make light of his concern.

I believe that our responsibility is to act and speak from our Truth, and
that is all.

My thoughts and tears are with you and this young family.

Pat Gima, IBCLC
Milwaukee