>    Sometimes they mean exactly that they intend to try -- but they have
>friends who have been unsuccessful, so there is the expectation that they
>might be  unsuccessful themselves.

For years I thought that I went into breastfeeding with no expectation of
failure because all my friends nursed their babies.  One day I sat down and
thought about it.  At 29, I was the first of my actual friends to have a
baby.  "All my friends" were really just two people:  my mother and my older
sister.  Amazing that I spun two family members into a whole nursing culture
and saw myself not as a leader but as a follower.  Now, when I look back at
my friends from that time, I realize that many of them nursed only briefly.
Turn that whole scenario around, and you have a woman who deep down expects
to fail simply because her mother and sister failed, no matter how many
friends around her are nursing...

Diane Wiessinger, MS, IBCLC, LLLL  Ithaca, NY

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