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Lee-Ann Halbert <[log in to unmask]>
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Mon, 5 Oct 1998 15:33:55 -0400
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I've had some interesting experiences these last few weeks on the
post-partum unit where I work, and was wondering if others have
experienced anything similar.  The last few "older" (defined by, say >
35 years) first time moms who were interested in breastfeeding were what
I would call extremely needy.  It seems they want an exact answer for
everything, kind of like expecting a math problem of one and one to
always equal two.  They seem so unsure of themselves with not only
breastfeeding, but many (or most) aspects of baby care, that I am really
surprised.  The younger first-time moms seem better able to adapt to the
minute-to-minute changes it seems a baby exhibits, while the older moms
don't have the confidence to do so.  I'm new to the hospital setting,
with most of my experience in LLL...generally the moms who came to mtgs
were more confident in themselves, and willing to adapt to the changes
of a newborn.
My way of handling the situation with these moms who lack confidence is
to answer their questions as accurately as possible, and, yes, do it
time and again if necessary.  The other nurses on the floor are a bit
critical of these moms (apologies to any of my colleagues on this
list...please don't get me fired!), though not directly to their faces.
Is it just that I'm still so new to the floor setting and that I'm still
in that "honeymoon" phase, so I'm willing to take the time to answer the
long list of question?  I also tell these moms (and dads, if present)
that THEY are the experts on their babies.  All of us, nurses, doctors,
lactation consultants, etc., have specialized information, but the
parents know their own babies best...I really want them to develop that
sense of confidence in their parenting.  Am I doing a disservice by,
what some nurses would see as coddling these moms?
Thanks...
Lee-Ann, RN, IBCLC

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