Nina writes:


>Hi Christine
>Why does this have to be a one-size-fits-all policy.  Unlike 
>Heather, I don't find the idea of visitors in the hour or two after 
>birth monstrous - if the mother wants them there.


If a mother *genuinely* wants more than one or two visitors in the 
hour or two after birth, then I am hard-pressed for an argument why 
her wishes should not be accommodated....except to say how difficult 
it would be for a mother to express this choice freely if she has 
domineering relatives. And how does the HCP step in to say 'STOP 
passing that baby round like a bowl of popcorn!' when the relatives 
make the most of their photo opportunity?

There are sound *clinical* reasons why peace and quiet are best for 
the baby, and for getting breastfeeding going.

I am sure there are some families - Nina's, for instance - who are 
wonderful, supportive and don't all want to pass the baby round them 
all.

But I still think the best solution is to have Rules which are 
adhered to. No one - no mother, no baby - suffers any loss or 
inconvenience if she is not surrounded by family immediately after 
birth. They can all wait a few hours. They are grown up and can defer 
their gratification.

Heather Welford Neil
NCT bfc, tutor, UK

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