This post made me smile and laugh a bit!  I've actually been thinking of
something like that for in the newborn nursery before they decide to let the
nurse give formula overnight.  To some of the other comments:

Rachel: you were right I feel disappointed, I was actually close to tears
(probably b/c this was my third in a month)- thats why I posted on lactnet- to
work out MY feelings! So, hopefully the next time I can be more detached and
deal better with the MOTHERs feelings

Jen: Any ideas of something I can write to this mother- I asked her for a
picture of her baby and she emailed it to me- so I was thinking of something
like "I'm sorry about the experience you had with breastfeeding...I hope that I
can continue to support you in your decisions...or that should should feel free
to call with any questions..."---

with each of the mothers when I found out that they had quit I was surprised--
because they WEREN'T having problems(other than probably a lack of support)  so
I reacted  "why?"  "why didn't you call me?"   Which makes me think that
whatever reason they gave (one said she just dried up after having a cold- the
other that her breasts were lumpy and he was feeding every hour) they didn't
want it solved- they just didn't want to breastfeed anymore - this last one is
very young- unmarried lives with her parents- she kept saying -its okay - its
okay -I couldn't help myself- I said-well- formula is not equal to breastmilk
and there ARE more risks of .....listing them... then I felt bad for doing that
and said -- well I want you to know that you did a great job for the amount of
time that you did and you gave him a good start and I filled out the
certificate--- obviously I don't have the best communication skills here and I
DO lose patients!

FYI My office IS formula and formula ad free- I have a framed poster in the
waiting room "Breastfeed because.... with the collage of mothers and different
languages and a poster in the entrance to the hallway  "breastfed babies are
welcome here" in addition to my "resource room" but after this mom, I pulled out
my ad campaign posters that I've been afraid to hang up

I showed them to my receptionist (who breastfed each of her 2 for about a year)
and a pregnant mom (who breastfed her last for 15 mo) they thought the posters
were beautiful (they are both hispanic) and they didn't mind in the least it
refernced to breasts- they actually didn't notice until I pointed that out!

So you see- the target audience DOES like the posters! The one that I thought
was benign -the slogan with the black background they didn't like!

So I'm going to go out and get them framed and put them up in the waiting room-
that way I don't have to be the one to constantly say..... risk factors

Also- I see how if these women had been to a support group they may not have
given up- to tell the truth these three I didn't refer- I have the mtg notices
for 2 local LLL groups but the last few people I gave them out to never went-
even one who is my most diehard breastfeeder- even she calls me often and I have
to keep cheering her along- "are you sure he's getting enough" the baby is big
and chubby on only breastmilk--- I have to post them somewhere- I just don't
want to turn my waiting room into a bullitin board and loose papers on the
magazine table get messy so quickly- I have to remember to keep making these
folders for new patients that I was doing with all kinds of hand outs in it.


Thanks for all the support


> Suggested text:
>
> I am discontinuing breastfeeding my child(ren) against medical advice.
>
> My physician has informed of the benefits that can reasonably be
> expected from breastfeeding are: (extensive list).
>
> My physician has also informed that the risks of artificial feeding
> are: (extensive list).
>
> I understand the risks of refusing to breastfeed my child(ren), and I
> am willing to assume these risks.  It has been explained to me that
> there may be life-long consequences for the child who is artificially
> fed, and I am willing to assume those life long consequences.
>
> I understand that discontinuing breastfeeding may result in a worsening
> of my child(ren)'s known condition and any conditions currently unknown
> and could pose a threat to my child(ren)'s life, health, and medical
> safety, including death or permanent disability.  I hereby refuse to
> breastfeed my child(ren).
>
> Signature:                              Date:   Time:
> Print mother's full name        Her date of birth
> Print Name of child(ren)        Date(s) of Birth
> Full Address, City, State, Zip
>
>
> Katie Bredbeck
>
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>

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