I sent this before, but did not see it come up, if you´ve already read it,
sorry!!!

Hi everyone,

I have been away from Lactnet for a long time.. lots of work in the
newly-started private practice, three little kids... what can I tell you
that most of you don´t already know.

Following the thread on pumping, I wanted to share a beautiful thing that
happebed a few weeks ago at my office. A mom was referred to me. Several
people knowledgable in lactation had seen her and she had finally been sent
to me. She had intense nipple pain during the feeds but everythig was
apparently normal. This was a well educated mother, very conscious of the
importance of bf. I sat with her for a while, watchd a feed; everything
seemed well, good latch, normal nipples, no sign of infection, the pain
didn´t sound like thrush. But she DID have pain, her face crumpled when the
baby was latched. All the time she kept telling me how hard she was trying
and how much pain she had and how she though it really was not going to go
away. After a few minutes I got the clear impression that she was covertly
asking me for my professional "permission" to stop breastfeeding.
During all this exchange and feed, she did not once hug or cuddlke or look
her baby in the eyes, nor did she speak to him. She passed him to me while
fastening and unfastening her bra.
Taking all this in, and by pure intuition, I calmly told her it might be
best if she stopped breastfeeding; she could try pumping only and feeding
the baby that milk.
After I said this, there was a SPECTACULAR change. She made me repeat what I
had said. Then she HUGGED her child, looked at him and told him how good her
milk was going to be for him. It was really amazing. Like if what was
blocking her motherhood and attachment capacity had disappeared.

On her next visit she was exclusively pumping and happy. She told me after I
gently asked that she had suffered child abuse, and that she had been in
therapy a long time ago and gotten over it. However she was not surprised,
when we analyzed it, about what had happened.

It was truly a gift for me to meet this woman.

Glad to be back in Lactnet,
Kika

--
Dr. Carmela Baeza MD IBCLC
Family doc in Madrid, Spain
www.centroraices.com



-- 
Dra. Carmela Baeza
Médico de Familia
Consultora Certificada en Lactancia Materna IBCLC
www.centroraices.com

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