> I think as one writer put it, there are many types of Mothers and many
> different situations. My husband and I have found that it works best to
> read many different parenting philosophies and choose the ones that work
> best for your family. This is what I tell my parents in the classes I
> teach.
Very true, and Babywise isn't *all* bad. That type of schedule is just what
some mothers need, as you've found out. The problem with it is that it's a
"baby in the box" thing, one-aixe-fits-all parenting. From the introduction
(Preparation for Parenting, edition 5), "The pricnciples have worked for
thousands of parents and, when faithfully applied, will also work wonderfully
for you!" Ezzo states that it will work and if it doesn't, you aren't
faithfully applying the principles. :-( In the GFI "forum" any questions
asked about why it isn't working is blamed on the parents, and they're
encouraged to become more rigid in their application of PDF, not less.
Somewhere in the book (don't have the page #), writing about potential
failures, Ezzo says "the problem isn't with *the* scedule, it's with *your*
schedule" Leaves parents feeling terribly incompetant when it fails for them.
Not to mention it is completely unsubstantiated medically. He makes claims
that feeding chidlren on demand increases ADD, cause metabolic confusion (what
is that, anyway???) and many, many more, Dr. Aney says at least 35.
Is feeding a baby on a schedule wrong? No! Some babies, mothers and families
thrive on it. Is insisting new parents *must* feed on a scedule, limit
feedings to no more than 10 per day, get baby to sleep throught the night by 8
(maybe 10) weeks, etc. and using scare tactics, medical misinformation and
Scripture twisting to convince them this is *the correct* method of parenting
wrong? Yes.
Thing is, though Ezzo does lip service to flexibility, anything outside of his
routine is wrong. I agree that reading various parenting philosophies and
taking what "works for you" from each one is best, but Ezzo would never
encourage this. It's PDF or you'll turn your children into brats. That,
combined with the misinformation, is my problem with the materials. There must
be some *other* place to get the good stuff, and it's time to get the deceptive
stuff off the market.
Blessings ~ Heidi
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